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The Uncommon Life Podcast – E3 (Where to start when making health a bigger priority in your life)

We made it to episode three! We have a new intro, improved the sound quality (yeah, Rich got a mic!) AND we managed to keep it under an hour. Win.

Spotify: E3: Where to Start When Making Health a Bigger Priority in Your Life

YouTube: E3: Where to Start When Making Health a Bigger Priority in Your Life

Apple Podcasts: E3: Where to Start When Making Health a Bigger Priority in Your Life

(It’s also available on all other major podcasting platforms)

In episode three, we discuss what might be the best way to start making health a bigger priority in your life.

We know at the beginning it can be hard. You might be overweight. You might be lacking energy. You might be wondering where you’re going to find the time to work out. Perhaps you’re struggling with confidence. You might just not know where to start.

But, there’s always a place you can start. And there’s a bunch of things you can do that will make it easier to take those first steps, and to start to build some consistency towards better health habits.

We hope the episode is useful for helping you to do exactly that. Enjoy!

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I’m rarely present and in the moment (are any of us?)

Sometimes you have to be at the right place in your life to properly hear advice. It’s why people read books for a second and third time. You get something different each time, because you’re in a different place in your life. It’s why someone can give you advice many times, over many years – and then one time it just clicks and you immediately make a change.

I listened to Chris Williamson interview Sam Harris on his Modern Wisdom podcast earlier in the week. It’s a great conversation. About half way through, Chris quoted something Sam said in a public talk. I immediately paused the podcast, and listened to it back. I then googled the transcript so I could read it a few times:

But, as a matter of conscious experience, the reality of your life is always now. And I think that this is a liberating truth about the nature of the human mind. In fact, I think, there’s probably nothing more important to understand about your mind, than that, if you want to be happy in this world. 

The past is a memory; it’s a thought arising in the present. The future is merely anticipated; it is another thought arising now. What we truly have is this moment. And we spend most of our lives forgetting this truth, refuting it, fleeing it, overlooking it.

And the horror is that we succeed. We manage to never really connect with the present moment and find fulfilment there, because we are continually hoping to become happy in the future. And the future never arrives. Even when we think we’re in the present moment, we’re, in very subtle ways, always looking over its shoulder, anticipating what’s coming next. We’re always solving a problem. And it’s possible to simply drop your problem, if only for a moment. And enjoy whatever is true of your life in the present.

The quote from Sam did stir something up in me. Perhaps it was the elegance of how Sam talked about it. Perhaps it was because of where I am in my life – I’m ready to hear it, and act on it. Perhaps the stars needed to align with my subconscious and conscious for it to click with me. Who knows. But, what I do know is that I think it’s going to start a new journey for me.

I thought I did a fairly decent job of not dwelling on the past, or being too fixated on the future. It’s a big part of why I let go of goals in my life, and instead focus on the process and a direction I want to head. But, as I listened to Chris quote Sam, I realised, I have a WAY to go.

This part of the quote particularly resonated with me:

Even when we think we’re in the present moment, we’re, in very subtle ways, always looking over its shoulder, anticipating what’s coming next. We’re always solving a problem.

As I reflect, I realise I still do a lot of thinking about the past and future. Even when I think I’m being present and in the moment, there’s still a lot of internal dialogue pulling me all over the place. Like Sam said, it’s subtle – but it makes all the difference. If I’m truly honest with myself, being present and in the moment is a very fleeting moment for me.

As I was thinking more about this, the first feeling I got was one of frustration and regret. How much time have I wasted? How lame is it that I can’t just settle into the moment and enjoy life? After a while, it turned into thinking about what an opportunity I have in front of me. I have an opportunity to turn the dial from a two out of ten, to a five. And then an eight – maybe even a ten? This could be transformative for me.

So, where do I start?

The first thing that comes to mind is that self awareness is half the battle. This in itself is going to change how I do things, and how I talk to myself.

The second thing that comes to mind is I need to re-explore meditation and listen to more of Sam. So, I’m going to subscribe to his Making Sense Podcast and the Waking Up app (a mix of meditation and mindfulness education). And we’ll go from there. 🙂

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Daily Habits: July 2023 (am I on shaky ground?)

In June, my 6.5 hours sleep and 10K steps habits slipped below 80% (blame it on the puppy!).

I was hoping to tighten these up in July, getting all eight habits back to 80% or over.

Drum roll….

(Click here for the full 18 month journey)




Not only did getting 6.5 hours of sleep and walking 10K steps drop further, but I also fell under 80% for intermittent fasting. On top of that, I also saw a lot more consecutive misses.

I’m not about to panic. As I commented in last month’s update, I can’t expect a perfect run each month. July had a very unusual amount of curve balls, that can help explain why a few oranges are creeping in.

  • Toby the new puppy is still impacting my sleep. He’s waking up very early (although this is slowly getting better) – so my sleeping window is compressed on some days. Also, I haven’t done a great job of getting to bed early when I know I’m on the early shift.
  • I’ve been on-off sick for the last two weeks of July. This made 10K steps more challenging, particularly towards the end of the month (I was pretty much in bed). I also made a conscious decision to give my body more calories and to eat breakfast towards the end of the month. I think that’s what my body needed to recover. The consequence of that was I skipped fasting for five days in a row.

So, yeah, July wasn’t great.

I’ve had to reframe some of my expectations over the last couple of months. When I hit a three month 80%+ streak on all habits in May, I constructed an expectation that anything less than 80% for any habit would be unacceptable going forward. On reflection, that’s not realistic. There will be months where some habits may take a dip. And you know – that’s OK. It doesn’t mean I’ve lost the habit. It just means I’m going through a challenging period that makes 80% consistency difficult for some habits.

Now, that doesn’t mean I can get soft. When I see challenging periods around the corner, I still need to think about sensible ways to mitigate them. And when I’m in the middle of them, I need to try my best to limit the damage. If I happen to fall below 80% in a given month for a habit, I also need to think about what it takes to regroup and build it back to 80% when possible. That’s what real life is about.

And that’s what I will do now. Yes, I’ve taken a step back. But, with the right conditions, I know I can easily build back to 80% across the board very soon.

So, let’s talk about August. My goal is to get 6.5 hours of sleep, walking 10K steps and intermittent fasting upwards, and as close to 80% as I can – whilst maintaining all other habits at 80% +.

I think fasting will be easy. Steps will be difficult because they will continue to take a hit for the first few days of the month as I recover from being sick. Sleep, whilst easier than steps, will still have the whole new puppy thing going on. I also have a few trips planned in August, which may test the consistency here or there (although I am generally pretty good at mitigating against these nowadays).

A fantastic month would be all eight habits at 80%+. But, even if I get intermittent fasting back up to 80% and sleep and steps closer to 80%, that would be a good step forward. If that happened, I could then use September to get back to 80% across the board – as long as I had a clear run at it.

Anyway, I’m getting ahead of myself. I’ll take it a month at a time. August is for making some ground up, and taking a step forward.

As usual, see you next month.

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The Uncommon Life Podcast – Episode 2

We’re back with another episode of The Uncommon Life Podcast!

Spotify: E2: Sharing Our Journeys Towards Being in the Best Shape and Health of Our Lives

YouTube: E2: Sharing Our Journeys Towards Being in the Best Shape and Health of Our Lives

In episode two, Rich, Luis and myself talk about each of our journeys towards being in the best shape, and best health of our lives.

We’re active every day, and we train hard most days. We’re very intentional about what we eat to support our goals. And we consistently keep good habits, that help us feel great and be in good health.

But, it hasn’t always been like this. It’s been a journey for each of us, which we’ve had to build towards it. Each of our journeys have been different – as they should be.

YOU have to go on your own journey, and you have to do the work, to build towards being in the best shape and health of YOUR life. And there’s no excuse to not be on that journey. You owe it to yourself, and you owe it to those who depend on you.

We at least hope that you can relate to some of our journeys – and that you find them useful for charting your own.

We tried hard to make this episode a bit tighter and shorter. Still a few sound issues, but we’re working on figuring those out for next week. Get a little bit better each week is our motto!

P.S – If you’re enjoying the show, we’d love it if you could leave a rating and review on wherever you are listening to this. It only takes a few seconds, and it’s a great way to support the show.

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Two Years Sober

Well, it arrived. I’m now two years sober!

As with most big changes, they usually happen in phases. These phases are often hard to predict, because each one usually helps to shape the one that follows. Only looking back now, can I connect the dots.

The first few months were difficult. I really missed a glass of red wine in the evening. I also felt awkward when out with friends or colleagues – relying on non-alcoholic beers to soften things. That said, the short-term tradeoff (no hangovers and less anxiety) was so obvious, I was able to push through. At this stage, I wasn’t sure where the journey would end. I hoped I would arrive at a place where I could have a couple of glasses of wine now and again. You know – take it or leave it.

At around six months, things started to get easier. It became more normal to not drink alcohol. Yes, I still missed a glass of red wine, but much less so. I continued to drink non-alcoholic beers to fit in, and it still felt great to be hangover free and to have less anxiety. I remained hopeful that this would help me build a better relationship with alcohol. Maybe then I could introduce it back in less frequently.

Around this time, I also started to build better habits in my life. I didn’t realise it at the time, but being free of alcohol played a part in me starting this. If I was able to change my habits for alcohol, why not a bunch of other stuff that would make me feel better too?

At about the year point, quite a few things clicked. The big one was how important sleep was for my mental and physical health. I was just an all round better person with more sleep – more optimistic, more confident, less anxious, more productive, and happier in myself. I also noticed how much easier it was to be consistent with my new health habits when I was well rested. When I was tired, I was much more likely to skip workouts, eat processed food, drink enough water etc. The light bulb had gone off. I now started to prioritise my sleep much more than ever before. I still consider it the base of the pyramid for self care.

The second thing that clicked was the relationship between alcohol and poor sleep. It’s not like I didn’t already know this. This message had been coming through loud and clear for a while now on some of the podcasts I listen to. [1] [2] [3] And it’s not like I couldn’t see it for myself. Almost every time I had a drink, my Whoop metrics were a mess the following day (if you want a free Whoop and one month free, use this link).

And then it all finally came together. It wasn’t that alcohol was the real problem here. It was that alcohol was causing poor sleep, which in turn threw everything else off. Another light bulb had gone off. Being sober might actually be for good. How can I have something in my life that so obviously disrupts my sleep, and then holds me back so significantly? It’s as if a decision to have a few glasses of wine is choosing to give myself a week’s worth of anxiety and low confidence.

You’ll notice I used the word ‘might’ be for good. I was 90% there. But, I still wanted to believe that there was a way to have my cake and eat it. I wasn’t sure how, but committing to being sober forever felt like a massive decision.

In the last few months, something changed in me. I started to identify and become comfortable with someone who didn’t drink alcohol. Up until this point, I always felt a bit awkward and embarrassed to tell people I didn’t drink. But, now I started to like standing out and being the guy who didn’t drink. I didn’t care at all what anyone else thought about it. I liked what it stood for. I liked that it showed a level of discipline and commitment that was uncommon. It showed I was in control of my life. I had decided to put something that wasn’t good for me in a box and throw away the key.

And that’s where I find myself today. Two years sober, and convinced I’ll never drink again. I’m a much, much better version of myself without it – why would I go back?

I’ll leave you with this clip of Steve-O (from Jackass). I haven’t seen anyone else so elegantly describe why giving up alcohol can be so powerful. His take on ‘kind of having alcoholism’ is so perfect. You don’t have to be an alcoholic to give up. You might just want to release the handbrake and starting living life to the full.

Notes:

[1] Alcohol: Kristen Holmes and Emily Capodilupo break down everything you need to know about how alcohol impacts your sleep, recovery and performance.

[2] Peter Attia discusses the impact of alcohol on health, particularly on sleep and the risk of neurodegenerative diseases.

[3] Matt Walker explains how alcohol affects the quality of sleep.

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I started a Podcast – The Uncommon Life

This has been a fun project to bring together. But, why start a podcast?

A couple of reasons:

  1. Writing is my comfort zone. Always has been. I wanted to push myself out of my comfort zone and start doing some audio and video. It’s going to force me to be a better talker.
  2. Getting out of my comfort zone is one thing – but, I didn’t want to do audio and video for the sake of it. I needed a topic and format I was really into. So, I sat on it for a while, waiting to get excited about something.

Over the last few months I’ve been having more conversations with my friends Rich and Luis on everything health, training, nutrition and discipline. All three of us live a very disciplined and healthy lifestyle. We’re very active and train hard. We eat in a very specific way to be in good health and achieve our goals. We’re all in the best shape and health of our lives because of it.

So, taking this conversation into a podcast felt very natural. It’s fun for us, and I think it can be very helpful for others – no matter where you are on the journey of health, fitness and discipline.

Here’s the first episode of The Uncommon Life – E1: Our Goals & Nutritional Approach (Including the Carrot Hack & Cheat Porridge!):

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Watch / Listen on Spotify – E1: Our Goals & Nutritional Approach (Including the Carrot Hack & Cheat Porridge!)

Listen on Apple Podcasts – E1: Our Goals & Nutritional Approach (Including the Carrot Hack & Cheat Porridge!)

We’re not trying to be over-polished with this. We have a bias towards putting out episodes and improving as we go along. So, expect the odd sound and wifi issue. Doorbell interruptions too!

I hope you enjoy it and find it useful. If so, please follow (you’ll get notified of new episodes) and rate the show on Spotify and YouTube. And any feedback at all is super welcomed.

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It’s a beautiful thing, when you start to like the person you’re becoming

If you know me or my writing, you’ll know that I struggle with confidence. It’s been like this for as long as I can remember.

There’s often some type of self doubt, anxiety, or imposter syndrome hovering around me. Even when I’m at my highest, I feel a black cloud in the background. I can be in the zone and feeling super capable one minute – only to feel like a complete fraud the next.

So far, I’ve relied on two strategies to keep this somewhat under control:

1. I’m an ambitious person. So, I will push myself, and then momentum tends to shove me forward. This has helped me gravitate to senior roles in companies. I’ve founded my own company. I write in public. I’m starting a podcast. I would like to launch a habit coaching course in the future. My ambition gets me started, and then I simply have no choice but to push the self doubt down and power through. It can be exhausting. But it’s better than the alternative – to be paralysed by self doubt.

2. I’ve invested a lot of time trying to find things that can help me be more confident. Reading books. Listening to podcasts. Taking courses. Gratitude. Meditation. Hypnotherapy. Coaching. Journalling. Surrounding myself with people who inspire me and lift me up. Some of it has been helpful. But, if I’m honest, even what’s been helpful, only eased things temporarily.

I was surprised by some internal dialogue the other day:

‘It’s a beautiful thing, when you start to like the person you’re becoming’

This feeling has been growing in me recently. I’m really starting to like the person I’m becoming. I’m becoming comfortable in my own skin. I’ve never genuinely felt like this before.

And then it hit me. More often than not, I’m confident and optimistic. In fact, so far this year, I can’t even remember a particular episode of self doubt or imposter syndrome. There have only been a few periods of low mood. But, I can track that to a lack of sleep, which I was able to correct.

So, how on earth did this sneak up on me?

And then it hit me again, this was the start of it. Eighteen months ago, I started a journey of building a set of rock solid habits in my life. This slowly grew into eight health habits I’m now very consistent with. Building these habits has had a gigantic impact on how I feel about myself.

Giving up alcohol was massive (I’m nearly two years sober). I struggled with what to do about alcohol for a long time. Finally deciding I will never have a drink again has been so impactful for my mental and physical health. It’s been truly liberating.

Giving up alcohol also highlighted how important sleep is for me. I first realised this when one morning I woke up feeling hungover and anxious. I noticed I had a few nights of very poor sleep. I forced a huge sleep that night and felt so much better the next day. My anxiety was gone. Huh? Maybe it wasn’t so much the alcohol that was causing my anxiety – but the impact it had on my sleep [1]. Improving my sleep has been a complete game changer for me. As it improved, I noticed everything else got easier.

And then you have all the other habits, Prioritising protein. Fasting. Limiting caffeine. Drinking plenty of water. Walking a lot. All of the eight health habits I’ve built, play a part in how much better I feel about myself now. And, cumulatively, they pack a huge punch.

But, it goes beyond just packing a big punch. It’s the person I’ve now become by holding myself accountable to these eight habits. I’ve become a man of discipline. Someone who is taking personal responsibility for how I want to live my life. Someone who consistently delays short term gratification, because I value the bigger picture more. Someone who does what they say. I’m not trying to be someone like this (like I did for most of my adult life) – I’m this person FOR REAL. I’m really doing it. This has made me feel very differently about myself. I’m proud of creating a much better version of myself.

Whilst the habits started it all off, I couldn’t have predicted what would happen next. As I became a more disciplined person, and as my confidence grew, a switch flipped in me. It happened about six months ago. I started to make some other changes in my life that I wasn’t able to make before.

I became more dedicated with my training. I started to invest in longer warm ups. I became more consistent with my cool downs. I was more focused in each training session. I added an extra few hours of zone two training into my program. It’s now incredibly easy for me to be active every day and to total about 10+ hours a week of training.

I started to take my nutrition far more seriously. I began tracking and controlling my food intake very consistently. I took my clean vs. unclean food ratio from something like 50/50, to now easily 80 / 20. I started to eat more protein. I’m now easily averaging 180 grams per day – compared to finding it very hard to hit 120 grams per day.

I struggled for many years trying to build this type of discipline in my training and nutrition. Yet, in 6 months I was able to break through it all. I can’t emphasise how much of a transformation it’s been for me to take my training and nutrition to a whole new level. I’m in the greatest shape and health of my life. Feeling comfortable in your own skin (literally) is an incredible feeling. Not to mention, pushing yourself hard has a very direct and positive impact on your mood.

The changes I’ve seen in myself aren’t contained to health and fitness. It started there, but then expanded into other areas of my life. I’m more secure and confident in my relationships. I’m more confident and composed at work. I’m starting to spin up some personal projects (podcast coming soon!). I’m genuinely much more optimistic about the future.

And you know what? It still feels like I’m so early on this journey. It feels like the handbrake only really came off six months ago. The best is yet to come.

This all sounds peachy right? Look. I’m not naive. I know life is going to throw some curveballs my way in the future. And it’s not like all of this was a particularly conscious plan. I actually didn’t see it coming. But, goddamn does it feel good to have a stronger foundation of confidence and optimism. So for now, I’m just going to be grateful for the switch that was flipped and hold onto it.

So, what’s the lesson in all of this?

If you’re struggling with confidence, self doubt, anxiety, or imposter syndrome – I would suggest avoiding the hacks. The hacks can be quite useful as optimisation, but only after you’ve solved the root cause. In themselves, they aren’t going to get to the root cause.

My brother Joseph helps people with confidence and imposter syndrome. In his course, he uses the Why technique [2] to help people get to the root cause of their anxiety. And every single time, without fail, it comes back down to this:

I’m not good enough.

So, go back to basics and work on yourself. Be relentless about it. Make it your number one priority. Build a set of self care and health habits that stick. Give yourself the time to do it properly (it took me 18 months). Build yourself into someone you like and are proud of. Start to feel good enough. And then watch what happens from there.

Notes:

[1] In episode #31 of the Huberman Lab Podcast, Dr. Matthew Walker and Andrew Huberman discuss how alcohol fragments sleep, reduces REM sleep, and can lead to emotional sensitivity. Link to specific segment here.

[2] An explanation of the ‘five whys’ technique here. By the way, it doesn’t have to be contained to five whys, and may often take more to get to the root cause of a problem.

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Daily Habits: June 2023 (are the cracks starting to appear?)

I absolutely smashed May – 80%+ across the board for all eight habits. The goal for June was exactly the same, as it will be for the rest of the year.

You may have already guessed from the title of this post, I might have got into trouble in June.

Let’s see how I did:

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OK, I have some explaining to do. Let’s talk positives to start with:

  • I rarely achieve 100% consistency on anything outside of no alcohol. So, it felt good to drink three litres of water every day in May. I find this very easy now.
  • I only missed eating 150+ grams of protein one day, hitting 97% consistency. At the end of last year, I found 120+ grams a day hard. Only eight months later, I have an average of 175 grams. Something very unusual has to happen for me to miss 150 grams. That’s a massive improvement.
  • Fasting, supplements and caffeine were all safely above 80%.

Now for the slip ups.

  • Sleep and 10K steps took a bit of a beating (67% and 73% respectively).
  • Some consecutive misses started to creep in

And that’s because of this:

Yep, we got a puppy (Toby). And well, he’s being a puppy!

We knew it would be hard work, but I under-estimated the impact it would have on my sleep and steps. He likes to wake very early, and doesn’t like to be left alone for too long!

On one hand, it’s a tough pill to swallow. I’ve worked so hard to build eight habits to 80% consistency. I hate to see some yellows creep in. But, if I take a step back, I realise that these habits are too strong to unravel because of a temporary life event. Life is not perfect. I can’t expect a stable and predictable environment every month.

What’s important is that I take the hit, and now focus on how to temporarily mitigate the changes in my situation. I need to hold my head above water as much as I can. And soon enough, Toby won’t rise so early and will be able to be left for longer (this is already happening).

So, what can I do?

I’m going to focus on two things:

  1. Go to sleep earlier. If I’m going to be woken up at 5AM, I have to mitigate that by going to bed earlier. I’ve resisted this so far as I like to have a full evening to myself. But, that’s just not viable right now, and sleep is absolutely a higher priority. It’s the base of the pyramid for me. At least for a while, I need to be hitting the sack around 9PM.
  2. Time block when I’m going to get my steps in. I tend to have a rough plan and then be opportunistic and flexible throughout the day. That usually works. But, with less flexibility, it falls apart. I need to block time out in the day, and then be more disciplined about walking at that time.

Bring on July. I have a real challenge in front of me. But, the goal remains the same – all eight habits at 80%+.

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How to build unbreakable consistency

I spent at least fifteen years chasing specific goals and perfection. I knew in my heart that it was wrong and making me miserable, but I still kept doing it.

I bounced between perfection and falling off the wagon hard – which is almost the definition of inconsistency. And because consistency is EVERYTHING for getting results, I struggled to change.

Over the last eighteen months, I’ve begun to think about things completely differently. I built a whole new mentality and mindset. This has helped me transform myself and achieve more than I could possibly imagine.

As I reflect on how I’ve changed, there are five things that stand out as making the difference:

1. Direction over goals

Nowadays, I rarely have any specific goals. Instead, I’m very clear in the direction I would like to go, and then I put all my focus into taking small steps towards that right direction.

For example, below are a few things I have written down for improving my health, which I often reflect on:

  • I put my health first – above everything else.
  • I’m metabolically healthy and I feel great.
  • I’m living my life in a way that will give me a full, healthy and happy last decade of my life.
  • I’m proud of how I look. I’m lean and comfortable in my own skin – and with taking my top off.
  • I’m fit, active and able to do lots of things – train, play sports, take on challenges or adventures.
  • I can move well – without aches and pains.

I could easily attach goals and tangible metrics to all of those – but I don’t. I prefer to build habits and take actions that move me closer to the above feeling more true when I say them. I focus on what I will do today, and how I spend my weeks – not on where I want to exactly end up.

2. 80% is good enough

I’ve learned that 80% consistency is where you find the sweet spot for getting most of the rewards – but with the flexibility to have some fun and stay sane too. Everything above 80% starts to become diminishing returns, especially when you factor in the marginal extra gains, and the risk of falling off the wagon.

It took me so long to admit this. Since I have, I’ve been able to achieve so much more, and be so much happier.

3. Averages are what count

In the past, when I would slip up on something, I beat myself up. If I skipped a training session, I would consider myself lazy. If I ate a piece of cake, I felt undisciplined and fat. The list goes on.

It comes back to 80% is good enough. But, importantly, it’s 80% over a period of time. Most slip ups are just blips in the grand scheme of things. You can still have a great day, if you make a mistake in the morning. You can still have a great week, if you have a bad day. And you can still have a good month, if you have a bad week.

For example, I track how many calories I eat every day. But, what I really care about is my weekly average. That means it’s fine if my calories sit too high one day. I have plenty of opportunity to bring the average down over the next couple of days. My weight and body fat over the long run, won’t be decided by one day’s worth of calories.

The same goes for habits. Below is how I’m doing for June:

I’ve had seven misses so far. None of them bothered me. I have peace of mind that I’m on track to be at 80%+ consistency for all my health habits this month. And, THAT’S what counts. That’s what I need to move forward.

4. Consecutive misses are fatal

A single mistake or miss is easy to recover from. It’s not enough to disrupt momentum. However, two can very easily become the start of a new pattern. And three? You’re already on a new pattern. Notice that I have no consecutive misses in June so far.

If you do make a mistake or have a miss, you must try and put things right the following day. If you have two consecutive misses, you cannot afford another.

5. Be patient

A lack of patience can sometimes be the biggest risk to consistency. It can be easy to feel that things are going too slow, or that you should change your approach.

Various things can cause a lack of patience. You might find yourself comparing yourself to someone else. You might have an unrealistic view of how long a change will take. Or, maybe you’re tired, and you’re finding yourself questioning everything.

When you’re starting to feel impatient, it’s useful to take a big step back. Look at everything from a distance and try and see the situation for what it really is. More often than not, you’ll realise you were over-reacting.

A few weeks ago, I started to become impatient about how my weight and body fat were dropping too slow, if at all. Only when I stepped back could I see three things were clouding my judgement. I had got caught up comparing myself to someone else. I was also reminded, that I had only become more disciplined with how I was eating for a few months. And, lastly, I was still very early in the journey. In fact, I was doing perfectly fine.

Listen, I’m far from perfect. I still find myself straying from the above five things. But, importantly, I now have self awareness when it’s starting to happen. That means I can self correct pretty quickly. If you can get yourself into this position, you’ll find yourself being able to build a level of consistency you never imagined.

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Daily Habits: May 2023 (I’m BACK)

My goal for May was 80% across the board for all eight habits.

This was very ambitious for two reasons. I took a lot of April off, so I was definitely feeling a bit rusty with my discipline and routines. Also, 10K steps is a new habit I’m building, and I only had one month at 68% under my belt (March).

So, let’s see how I did:

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Now, that’s what you call a SMASH.

I’m so happy with hitting 80% across the board and seeing a full column of green. Sure, things came in a little hot (a few 81% ‘s) – but, I got it done. And I have to keep remembering that I took most of April off, as well having some bank holidays and a half term in May. That makes this an even a more impressive result.

As I type this, I’m taking a step back. I’m able to hold down EIGHT foundational health habits at 80%+ consistency.

I’ll say that once more.

I’m able to hold down EIGHT foundational health habits at 80%+ consistency.

That’s insane for me to think about. Two years ago I couldn’t do one. Just over one year ago, I had two (and it was for only one month, so not a properly established habit).

I struggled for literally over ten years trying to build these types of health habits. So, what helped me finally do it? Three things.

  1. A change in mentality. There have been a handful of things I’ve had to think differently about (a good example is, 80% is good enough).
  2. My habit tracking systems (the notepad and spreadsheet) have kept me on track every day, and every month. That mix of zooming in on the day, but also seeing the bigger picture has been super important.
  3. Accountability. Having friends who are on the same wavelength that I can talk to regularly has been a game changer. We share strategies and help keep each other accountable.

One day, I’ll wrap all of this into some type of course that can help others make similar changes. If this sounds like it would be useful, let me know (I’ll be looking for some guinea pigs!)

Lastly, my goal for June? Exactly the same as May, and exactly the same for the rest of the year. All eight habits at 80%+. I’m not interested in layering on anything new. Instead, I just want to strengthen my consistency on these eight habits for the rest of the year.

See you in a month!

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